Last year was one of the hardest years of my life. But it came with so many gifts.
My twin pregnancy was the biggest physical challenge of my life.
The unexpected gift: As it turns out, my body is stronger than I ever imagined. So much stronger than my mind.
I carried my twins to 36 weeks gestation. They weighed six pounds each. And both of them came home from the hospital with us five days after they were born.
Bonus: My mom felt so bad for me she spent months at our house last year. This woman has three children and two step-children. Nothing phases her.
I spent all of 2013 either pregnant with twins or with newborn twins.
Which meant my brain was worthless.
My short term memory? Obliterated.
I couldn’t even remember my newborn son’s name in the hospital when the nurses asked me. On multiple occasions.
The unexpected gift: It forced me to release the goals I set up for my business and ignore the dirty kitchen floor while I spent most afternoons unconscious in my bed.
Note to pregnant twin moms: I promise you it’s easier to have newborns than it is to be pregnant with twins. You are experiencing the worst right this minute. It will get better. Especially after the first four weeks, which are so brutal you won’t remember them anyway.
I feel like my preschoolers were cheated out of a whole year with me.
The unexpected gift: Even though I spent every afternoon in bed, they probably saw a lot more of me than they did when I was working. And just like when I was a working mom, when I showed up for dinnertime, bath time and bedtime, I was all there. Even if I couldn’t get my belly to fit on my son’s bottom bunk for storytime.
Also, I think they’re handling it all okay.
We were crazy stressed in the financial arena.
Providing for a family of six, plus our beloved 22-year-old au pair, is no small responsibility for my husband. When we go food shopping, we buy four loaves of bread at at time. Every trip to the grocery runs at least $300, even when we’re trying to be careful.
A trip to the pediatrician to get the twins’ ears checked for infections runs $70. We have one child in preschool, which costs more than my first year at Florida State. Even buying socks for all these kids is expensive!
The unexpected gift: We are blown away by the kindness of our friends and neighbors. We are constantly on the receiving end of bags of clothing and toys, even for our older kids. And even better is the feeling of passing these gifts on to other families when we our children no longer need them.
Another unexpected gift is that I’m dipping my toe back into work this year. Which means I get to hang out here.
I’m sure I could go on, but I’m ready to MOVE ON.
Here’s to 2014. Let’s do it.